A Few Things

A Few Things... 

I'd like my friends without kids to know: 

1. I appreciate you supporting me through my pregnancies and being there for me during my loss. You couldn't relate, you couldn't imagine, but you helped me get through it.
2. I thank you for continuing to invite me to functions, knowing I may not go. It means so much! I would love to go out like before, but right now, I can't. 
3. I am grateful that you attended my gender reveal, my showers, came to visit. Thank you.
4. I know I post 27478393937483 pictures of my baby. Thanks for taking the time to "like" them. She brings me so much joy, so I like to share her.
5. I'm sorry if I talk to much about being a mommy. It is who I am now. It's the best me I've ever been. 
6. I'm sorry if I want you to join the mom club. I don't mean to be annoying, I just know how great it is.
7. I value your friendship now just as much as I did before, please don't be a stranger. 

 

 

I'd like to say to my friends who had kids before me...

1. I am sorry I didn't show more interest in your pregnancies or babies. I just wasn't there yet... And when I was, it didn't go my way for a long time... I feel guilty that I wasn't supportive enough.
2. Thank you for answering all my 37736388376 pregnancy questions 
3. I am so happy to be a mom and I thank you for all the recommendations and hand me downs/borrowed items.
4. You are rock stars and I love seeing you and your babies. 
5. Thank you for encouraging me to keep trying. No one who has pregnancy loss want to hear it, but I listened and I kept trying. 
6. Thank you for checking in on me to see how we are doing.

 

 

I'd like to say to those who have lost to miscarriage when really, there is nothing that can be said to help:

1. I know you are heartbroken, I know your heart is in actual pain. My heart hurts for you.
2. I am so sorry, I know this pain to well. Nothing anyone says makes it better.
3. Other people don't really understand if they themselves have not lost. They will try to comfort you, you will have some ok moments, but you won't breathe easy for a while.
4. It is ok to find happiness in things after. I felt guilty being happy, going out, or even smiling after... But it is ok.
5. It will be a long hard road, but it gets easier to cope with over time.
6. You will cry. A lot. For a long time. You may be out having fun and you may just breakdown and cry out of no where... And that is perfectly ok.
7. Try to stay busy, I know you can't even get out of bed to use the bathroom right now. You are living in a cloud of complete darkness and fog, but the sooner you get out, you may feel slightly like a human again. 
8. Don't blame yourself, I know you do, I did too. It's not your fault.
9. You are so strong. It takes a lot to get through this. 
10. Thank you to those who shared their story, it helped women like myself get through it. Many of you had multiple losses but didn't give up hope... This gave me hope.
11. Grieve for as long as you want, however you want, whatever helps you cope. No one can tell you to move on.
12. May you reach your rainbow or find peace.

 

I'd like to say to those who have lost due to stillborn, SIDS, or loss of child at any age... Baby or grown.

1. My heart aches for you. I cry so hard when I read your stories. 
2. I can't begin to imagine your pain, no one should have to go through that.
3. I hope you can find peace even though it can be impossible.
4. Your stories touch my heart so deeply.
5. You are so strong.
6. No one has the right to tell you to move on. In your own time, may your broken heart start to mend.
7. My you reach your rainbow or find peace.

 

I'd like to say to the new mamas...

1. I know you are tired and when people without a new baby say they are tired, you laugh in your head.
2. I know it is hard work, but isn't it the best?
3. Breastfeeding is not easy, keep at it! If it doesn't work out, don't beat yourself up!
4. Take care of yourself too. 
5. Cherish every moment, it really does fly by. 
6. You are amazing!
7. I can't imagine going back to work, those who do, you are so strong, so admirable. I give you so much credit for working and mothering... I truly could not imagine how hard that must be. To ALL working moms, bravo, you are a true supermom.

 

I'd like my dog to know...

1. I still love you so much.
2. Sounds ridiculous but you helped me get through the hardest time of my life.
3. You helped fill a huge hole in my heart.
4. I'm sorry I can't give you all the attention I did before. 
5. I'm sorry I sing songs to the baby and not to you anymore. It hurts me too sometimes. I feel terrible.
6. I'm sorry I can't snuggle with you from morning to night. 
7. I'm sorry you are sad, I can tell. 
8. In just a couple years, Brynne will be your best friend, I promise.
9. You are still and always will be Mommy's Baby

 

 

I'd like to say to my baby: 

1. Thank you for making me a better person.
2. Thank you for sharing so many beautiful smiles with me and making me smile more in these short months than I have in my entire life combined.
3. Thank you for sleeping well.
4. Thank you for eating well.
5. Thank you for being such a good baby.
6. Thank you for putting up with my silly songs and voices.
7. I know I take 363883838848458483 pictures of you a day, sorry, but you are just so beautiful!
8. I'm sorry I smother your cheeks all day with endless kissies. It's not my fault you have the most delicious cheeks.
9. You were totally worth the many years of heartache and definitely worth the wait. I would do it over a million times for you. 
10. I have a million other things I would like to say, but most boil down to the fact that you are the best thing that has ever happened to me and I love you more than anything in the world.